Susie was a cheerleader one year. That must have been when I made an assumption; she was “popular” and I didn’t run in that crowd. Since I lived close to the high school, I often hosted parties after football and basketball games and Susie never came. I assumed she was dating or didn’t want to come. The parties were open to the class of ’64 ~ It never dawned on me she didn’t know about them.
During high school I seldom saw her on weekends when I hung around with our crowd of “13” girls, driving the duels (4-lane highway) from the Dairy Queen through Chillicothe and back. I assumed Susie always dated; never dawned on me she was grounded many a weekend. I thought she was running with the “Popular” girls: and she assumed I was in the “Popular” bunch!
In one of my wedding pictures she was front center, very pregnant, smiling and throwing rice. That was probably the last time I saw her for decades. I do remember my mother telling me more than once what a wonderful parent Susie was; after marrying Pat they merged families and she reared eight children. Just imagine! How remarkable! I had assumed she was a scatterbrain! It would be highly unlikely a mother could raise eight talented and independent children to adulthood without being amazingly dedicated, intelligent, intuitive, resourceful, clever and energetic.
Susie and I reconnected through Facebook a few years ago. In doing so, I rediscovered a remarkable friend. I am so grateful to have her confidence; she is truly forgiving, loyal and loving. She has little inkling how talented, intelligent, and valued she really is. Susie is a fabulous friend, sister, wife, parent, and grandparent with undying willingness to help … my suggestion to her; she needed to say “No!” more often! Last time I saw Susie in Austin she said that NO is becoming part of her vocabulary; her children have me to thank for that!
To me this silly picture of us represents a friendship lost though assumptions and immaturity … but found again. After we reconnected, I wrapped Susie up as a fabulous present … and gave her to myself as a gift … what a treasure. I love being your friend Susie!